Things I Wish I Knew In High School
I had finished my high school this year, and let me be honest here it was not the best experience ever or something like that.. So here are the few words of advice that probably could have saved me lots of time, energy and tears..
Don't ever expect anything as seen in movies.
Stop pretending to be someone you are here not to impress people. When you do something stupid to impress someone, it’s still doing something stupid, and it likely won’t impress them as much as if you did something smart.
Being popular doesn’t matter.
In high school, it was so hard for me to realize that. I wanted to fit in so badly, be friends with everyone, be seen as cool. And in high school, it made me extremely insecure why I wasn’t seen as popular. I’ve realized now that the thoughts of others aren’t important as the thoughts you have about yourself. I wish I could go back and tell myself now that it doesn’t matter what they think of you, or how they see you. Don’t stress about the number of friends, stress about the quality. You’re beautiful just the way you are and if people can’t see that, then they are missing out!
The outfit you wear on the first day of school isn’t actually that important.
Wear what makes you feel comfortable at the end of the day, you're the one wearing your style.
Haters Gonna Hate
What others say doesn’t matter. Some people will never like you, don't let it bother you. People will always talk and be quick to judge, but you cannot, in the right mind, succeed if you pay them any heed.
Learn to forgive.
Avoid getting into big fights over little things. Kill them with kindness.
Friends Will come and go.
Some friends are for life and some are for high school and it can be hard to know who is who, harder still to let go, but amazing to spend time with those who stick around.
Not everyone deserves your trust.
It's completely alright to keep it a lot to yourself. The only person you have at the end of the day is yourself, and that has to be enough.
Never Ever Judge Anyone
Everybody has secrets. What others appear to have may be nothing close to what they are experiencing.
Stop Worrying Too Much
You deserve happiness, stop worrying about what they will say/think about you. I wish I'd spent less time holding back and worrying over what would happen, and just gone for it, and made the most of every minute. Don’t waste time worrying about fitting in with a bunch of people you will likely never see again when your high school is done. It’s a whole different world outside of these walls.
Loneliness May Occur
This can happen, especially during the first semester. Friend groups have not been found yet, school’s getting harder, and eating lunch by yourself is tough. Remember that you’re not the only one feeling scared and relax, it will get better.
Everyone is insecure. That’s OKAY.
Instead, take a deep breath whenever you feel your anxiety level rising and commend yourself for the miles and miles you’ve gone to get where you are now. Don’t compromise what makes you great for what makes you just like everyone else.
I am a master procrastinator and this is not a good thing. Make yourself a study schedule that includes breaks, this gives your brain a rest. Also, remember to study in small amounts before a test, not all at once on the night before the test.
Comparison Will Take You Nowhere
Stop comparing yourself to others, that will never do any good. The seemingly big things at the moment (no matter what stage of life you are in) are extremely small in comparison.
Put down the phone, and just soak in the world around you.
Talk to people face to face and really interact with society instead of always hiding behind a screen.
Keep the wheels moving
Try to do something new every day. It doesn’t have to be something big and dramatic, it just has to challenge you in a new way.
Most importantly, you will be okay.
There will be nights where you think you can’t handle everything that’s thrown at you. Sometimes you will fail a test or disappoint someone. Take a look at yourself for a moment and think about all you’ve been through. Heartbreak, pain, loss, and sleepless nights are probably all stamped on your adolescent resume. You’re here now, and you’ve made it so far. Take chances and most importantly, take it all in. This is the youngest you’ll ever be again and you’ve got so, so much ahead of you.